Desperation causes Nollywood marriage failure – Fidelis Duker

Ace Nigerian filmmaker, Fidelis Duker, has said one of the reasons marriages of entertainers don’t last is the inability to do thorough research on the partner.

Nigeriafilms.com said Duker, who has been married for 17 years, stated that marriage is not about the money spent on the ceremony or the number of people that attended the event or how well the media reported the marriage ceremony, but it is about both parties asking important questions about themselves.

According to him, “We keep hearing of marriages that were done ‘hush-hush’. Why would you marry a man or a woman who has a mysterious past? If your friend or colleagues know that the person you are about to wed has a partner already, why should you still go on with such wedding?

“Why not do a thorough background, check (on your partner)? But because of desperation, most marriages end up having problems both in the music and movie industry. It is because they are all desperate to get married, that is why there are so many marriage failures.

“I tell people that it is not everybody that would be rich and it is not everyone that would get married. People must understand that because Ms. A had her marriage in Dubai does not mean that you also have to have yours there.”

On whether money could be a key factor to a good marriage, the producer stated that it is in the past that the Igbos believed money was everything before marriage, noting that at the time he got married, he was already at the peak of his career.

He stated that as a young man then, he was making as much as N3 million from a film, but he kept the money under the table in his office while still living with his parents.

The producer advised lovers to have the mindset of helping each other’s weakness before deciding to go into marriage. He hinted that marriages crash these days due to trivial issues, which could have been avoided.